DEAR EDITOR,
The country has in the recent past been recording high incidences of spousal killings. Spousal kilning is a scenario where spouses kill each other. Spousal killing also includes lovers killing each other.
The reasons giving rise to spousal killing include in- fidelity, petty jealousy and misunderstanding, among others.
It is evident that there could be misunderstanding in intimate relationships quite allright. This is normal. It becomes a problem when couples fail to resolve their marital differences.
People contemplating marriage must undergo premarital counselling. The premarital counselling ses- sions can be provided by the church leaders and relatives of the bride and the groom. This is imperative in that it prepares the potential couple on how best to resolve some problems.
Guns, knives and iron bars, among others have been used in spousal killings in the recent past. This is a worrisome scenario and surely the amicable solu- tions must be found to solve the problem.
There have been incidences where the husband shot dead his wife and vice ver- sa because of infidelity. Infidelity arises in a situation where the husband flirts with another woman. It can also involve the wife flirting with another man. This is a sad development.
It has been shown that some people resort to kill- ing their spouses and lovers because of anger. In this regard, there is need to man- age your anger which can subsequently result in tem- perament. When a person loses their temper, he or she will do the nasty thing like murdering someone.
Mr. Steven Yamba, aged 44 years on Christmas day slain his wife Kangwa Mwango aged 33 years through sever beating on suspicion that she had been flirting with another man.
He started beating her on December 24, 2021 around 19:00 hours throughout the night. She died the following day around 09:00 hours as she was being taken to the University Teaching Hospi- tal.
Mr. Yamba later bought a pesticide and committed suicide by drinking it. This was probably after realising that he had killed his wife.
One thing worth men- tioning here is that there are disappointments in intimate relationships. On this score, it is imperative to accept what has transpired and move on with life. Suffice to say, killing your lover or spouse is not the solution.
ELEMIYA PHIRI, Lusaka.
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